The Art of Detachment

"There is one thing worse than an overstressed organization or community; that is an overstressed and defeated feeling expressed within the ranks of leadership, responsible for being flexible in its approach for successfully influencing choice and change. "I can't – we can't" present pessimistic views that tear at the fabric of excellence." Your Paradigm of Choice influences your Paradigm of Change; an unspoken counseling to cynicism." – Damian D. "Skipper" Pitts, Author, The Art of Detachment.

Where do we go from here?

There seems to be, with some of us, an erroneous perspective about how we look and think about the topic of leadership. As times change, so do the way people that are chosen as leaders tend to influence change? The misconception is that leadership changes independent of the people chosen to lead it. It does experience transition, whether we like it or not, whether we recognize it or not and whether we actively participate within that transition or not. It does not change on its own. As the individuals perspective in life and reality take on new challenges – transition in ideation, transformative thought, the technology changes that drives our perspective on getting things done, and the changing environments reflective through the constant design and development of our ideals, values, and beliefs – so does the way of leadership.

We are aware of these huge incessant issues such as the Iraq war and the sectarian struggles that are causing human life to be lost, the environment, education, employment, politics, economics and such like and we drown in the sea of information about them, as they migrate like locust in our lives, day-in and day-out. The erroneous perspective extends on this tide until these problems and challenges seem so disconnected from each other and so alien to our personal circumstances that we think we are disadvantaged and unimportant to make the any difference. We become ambivalent and detached from them, desensitized in a way that we begin to belief that we are all unable to overcome the challenges and enormous gravity of the situation. Moreover, we think we have no responsibility for them. But it is just that: erroneous perspective!

We think that to change the communities that we reside, we must change the community that resides around us. Nothing else makes any difference. However, as my opening suggests, change comes from within, not without. It is powered by the minds of each of us. It is engineered by the words from your mouth and the actions of your behaviors. It is constructed by your hands, as we are all responsible for it and influenced by it, whether directly or indirectly. It is so very clear to me that to change our communities – business, personal, relationships, etc – we must begin by changing ourselves. The challenges and problems that face us on our journey in life do not exists within the depths of our media, it simply lies within each of us. The many problems and challenges are created by us and we must be prepared to accept the 'truth' delivered by our own level of influence and consequence of our actions; our behaviors and our means to deliver on expected performance within the environment that we are a part. "Your actions carry a thought and shape a destiny!" Many, most, and some of us seem to not have a full grasp for this statement. And despite our perceptions to the contrary, they are either a result of our passive acceptance that we can do nothing about them or our active role in encouraging them through greed, misunderstanding and downright negligence.

So, we have a choice. You have a choice. Accept the reality that we have made for what it is and allow change to occur with you as a passive participant in it, or look at your life and begin wondering: It is what it is? Does it get any better? Is this the best my reality and the reality of the world can be? Developing the paradigm of Democratic Leadership is my way of answering these very pointed questions for my own existence and my answer is absolutely, and without any doubt, NO!


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